Matchmaker Secrets: The six predictors of dating success

If you read Misadventures in Matchmaking: Cultural Differences Part 1, you know that my date and I didn’t make sense on paper.  It makes me wonder, how do Matchmakers determine if a date is going to be successful?  In the book Matchmaker Secrets: The Six Predictors of Dating Success, Elizabeth Cobey-Piper and Susie Hardesty talk about their experiences as Matchmakers.  Both of them mention how early on in their careers, they had misconceptions of what would be the perfect match (I hope that my Matchmaker isn’t the same way).  But through their experiences, they have learned better signs for dating success.

Book Review - Matchmaker Secrets: The Six Predictors of Dating Success

At the beginning of the book, it kind of felt like an advertisement for the authors’ Matchmaking service.  Even throughout the book, they continue to discuss their experience and service, but it creates a backdrop for what dating success actually looks like.  After the experiences that Cobey-Piper and Hardesty have had as Matchmakers, they have developed what they feel are the “Six Predictors of Dating Success.”  Basically, if you embody these predictors, you should be successful when it comes to dating according to the authors.

Book Review - Matchmaker Secrets: The Six Predictors of Dating Success “It isn’t looks, money, age, or lack of baggage that will ensure you find love. Those things are part of the equation, but they are not the determining factors for dating success.” - Elizabeth Cobey-Piper and Susie Hardesty

The authors discuss the six concepts that they have determined predict if you will be a dating success, explaining why these are predictors.  They also give positive and negative examples of clients that they have had and why they were either successful or a failure due to each idea. Finally, the authors give tips on how the reader can incorporate each and also be successful.

Book Review - Matchmaker Secrets: The Six Predictors of Dating Success “If love is vital, we need to commit ourselves to finding it. We need to make the search for love a priority.” - Elizabeth Cobey-Piper and Susie Hardesty

Some of the predictors that Cobey-Piper and Hardesty mentioned are different than what you typically hear in society, but they make sense.  Why would love find you when you stop looking for it?  Rather if it is important, you should make it a priority.  Also, there are stigmas on the different vehicles that people use to find love which the authors think you should ignore.  Yes, there are avenues that fit certain people better and you should determine which is best for you, but don’t discount it because of popular beliefs.

Book Review - Matchmaker Secrets: The Six Predictors of Dating Success “You have to be in the right mood to answer when opportunity knocks. And if you aren’t you need to find the courage to change your mood and open the door.” - Elizabeth Cobey-Piper and Susie Hardesty

There are some other recommendations that I’m not sure I agree with.  Rather than narrowing your search to find the perfect person, they recommend that you broaden your search.  I know that in theory it makes sense, but I’m having a hard time agreeing with it.  I recently asked my Matchmaker to lower my age limit five years.  They kept setting me up with guys at the end of my range (14 years old than me) and it wasn’t working out.  Another recommendation is to go on three dates, but I feel like the dates that I have gone on, only one was necessary to know that it wasn’t going to work.

Book Review - Matchmaker Secrets: The Six Predictors of Dating Success “What you believe dictates your emotions - emotions impact how you interact with the world - how you interact with the world gives you your results.” - Elizabeth Cobey-Piper and Susie Hardesty

The predictors that they list make sense in that people who have those qualities would be more successful, but I think that there are other aspects that the authors left out.  Just because according to their predictors, you should be successful, does that guarantee that you will meet the right guy?  Or that they would be able to set you up with the right guy?  You might have the attitude that they mentioned and putting yourself out there, but maybe it’s not the right time and you also have to be patient.  Maybe the guy that you are right for isn’t using the same vehicle that you are.  There are too many other scenarios to say that the author’s predictors are the final word in dating success.

Book Review - Matchmaker Secrets: The Six Predictors of Dating Success “Love is looking for you, so you need to put yourself in places where you can be found.” - Elizabeth Cobey-Piper and Susie Hardesty

As I mentioned there are some valid points that aren’t typically addressed or are counter cultural.  It is also an interesting read with true stories that the reader can relate to.  But there are also points that I wasn’t sold on and I don’t think that you can definitively say that these six things can predict whether or not you will be successful at dating.  Overall, I just don’t feel that this book is a must read when it comes to books about dating.

Have you read the book Matchmaker Secrets: The Six Predictors of Dating Success?  What did you think of it?  Do you think that there are predictors that can determine whether or not you will be successful at dating?


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Have you ever asked yourself the question, "Why do some people appear to effortlessly find love, while others struggle in the dating scene?" Most people say it is good looks, success, age, or lack of baggage that are the keys to finding love, but are they right? The answer is, No! Those things are part of the equation, but the truth is they are not the determining factors for dating success. What are the factors that increase your odds of finding love? After 30 years of combined experience, Certified Matchmakers Elizabeth Cobey-Piper and Susie Hardesty have discovered the secrets to finding love. Through watching thousands of singles succeed and fail in their quests for fulfilling relationships, one thing became clear: It is how you approach the dating process in six specific areas that makes the difference in your success. This groundbreaking discovery is the Six Predictors of Dating Success. In just one conversation with you, these insightful matchmakers can use these six factors to predict your likelihood of finding love. In their book Matchmaker Secrets, the Six Predictors of Dating Success, Elizabeth and Susie, will take you on an exploration of these powerful concepts and show you how each Predictor plays a crucial role in your own success. In this straightforward, yet warm and sometimes humorous book, these loving and fierce cupids share the inspiring real-life stories of how their clients used the Six Predictors to find love. Through strategic recommendations and practical advice, they explain how to use the Six Predictors to empower you in your search for love, transform your dating experience, and help you reach your goal of a fulfilling relationship. In this book you will discover: Why you haven't been successful in the past The pitfalls of modern dating and how to avoid them How to turn the odds in your favor How to enjoy the dating process Most importantly, how to find love Join Elizabeth and Susie on this transformative journey through the Six Predictors, learn their matchmaker secrets, and realize that you have the power to change your dating experience and find love.

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