I feel like I should preface that I’m definitely not the expert on basically anything when it comes to dating. These are some tips that I’ve either come up from my experience or have come across. They are probably not the be all or end all when it comes to getting ready for a date, however this might be a good starting point if you are as clueless as I was when I first started dating. If you are an expert, then maybe this will be entertaining for you and you can share your ideas in the comments below.
First and foremost, when it comes to a successful first date, it helps that you aren’t trying to be something that you are not. You are trying to show him (or her for the guys that I’m sure are not reading this) your best side, but it is still you. The other thing is that you need to feel both comfortable and confident, which can make it seem like a little bit of a balancing act. If you follow both of those tips, even if things don’t work out, you should feel like you gave your best.
Figure out what you are doing and dress appropriately
You should probably always know what you are doing and where you are going for a first date. Most of my dates have just been dinner or coffee which is pretty easy to plan for, however that isn’t that only options and probably aren’t the best ones either (coming soon Creative First Date Ideas). One of my dates took me to an art museum (coming soon Misadventures in Matchmaking: Not Settling). I have to admit that I stressed out a little bit, because what do you wear to an art museum? I ended up going a little more casual than I do for a first date (and definitely comfortable shoes). You don’t want to dress inappropriately or uncomfortably for a date because you will be distracted by your attire rather than making a good impression. Make sure you know where you are going and dress accordingly.
Dress to impress
Continuing on dressing appropriately, because I think that this might be a point worth belaboring, is dress to impress. I once had a guy show up to a date wearing a sweatshirt (coming soon Misadventures in Matchmaking: Youthful 42). Now there were other factors that made that date not workout either, however the sweatshirt was a big issue for me. If the guy wasn’t willing to dress up for a first date, how much of a priority was he going to make the relationship? It also creates an impression that right or wrong isn’t what you want people to make during a first date. I know that you don’t want to be overdressed, but it would probably be preferable to being under dressed. Also, there are ways to add/subtract items to dress up or make an outfit more casual in case you are unsure.
Make sure that clothing fits and is flattering
Part of dressing to impress is making sure that your clothes fit and are flattering. There is nothing more awkward than having to pull at your outfit all night or not being able to breathe. Again, everything about this date should be showcasing you and you can best do that when you look your best and when you feel your best. Trust me, if that dress you decided to wear isn’t flattering or if your top is too loose, you aren’t going to feel confident and it is going to show.
Wear something that makes you feel good about yourself
I absolutely love the color red and always feel super confident when wearing it. I don’t have one go to outfit when I go out on a date, but I usually have one piece that I build my outfit around. It could be a dress that people compliment every time I wear it or a color that people always comment on. Whatever it is, it usually gives me a boost of confidence and I feel less nervous about the date. Find something that makes you feel bold or just good about yourself and wear that on your next date.
Don’t experiment with makeup/hair boundaries
If you don’t usually wear eyeliner, this is not the time to go with heavy eye makeup. Yes, you want to look good and maybe you should practice your makeup, but not before you go out on a date. It was great getting my makeup done prior to my date (see Misadventures in Matchmaking: Awkward Acquaintance Part 2) but it was different enough that I was a little unsure of what my date was going to think. There are so many things that you are stressing out about on a first date, your makeup doesn’t need to be one of them. Just stick with the look that you have already perfected.
When it comes to getting ready for a date, there are different choices that you can make. You can try to make a lasting impression. You can try to be what you think that person is looking for. Or you can be yourself and showcase yourself to the best of your ability.
What tips do you have for getting ready for a date?